The two most common manifesting questions I get from readers are, "How do I manifest more money?" and "How do I manifest my dream relationship?".
So today, I'm sharing the best EVER tips for manifesting your dream relationship. You deserve that once-in-a-lifetime kind of love and I’m gonna show you how to get it. Right here, right now.
Let’s do this!
Love Yo Self
I know you’re probably tired of hearing this one, but if you’re still reading blog posts about manifesting love, then it needs to be said again. Ain’t nobody gonna love you if you can’t love yourself.
So start with that.
And if you need help loving yourself you’ll definitely want to check out my book #ActuallyICan: The Art of Affirming Yourself to Greatness because there’s a whole chapter in there dedicated to self-love.
Love yourself. Treat yourself. Cherish yourself. Admire yourself….
Basically, everything you want your future partner to do for you, do it for yourself first.
When you do this, you're practicing a vital manifesting technique, where you're acting as if it's already happening. By doing this, you’ll become a vibrational match to your new partner, which is going to help them come faster! #yay
Create Some Space
Like I mentioned above, a big part of manifesting anything is to act as if it’s already happening. And a big part of this means creating or leaving space in your life for your (future) partner.
A simple example would be to leave a drawer in your dresser empty for your lover. After all, if you had a lover, wouldn’t you want them to leave a few things at your place? Don’t you want them to feel welcome?
And this isn’t just limited to physical space. You can also benefit from leaving a little space in your calendar, with the positive expectation that when your ideal partner shows up, you’ll have time to spend with them.
When you leave space for things you're literally inviting them into your life. So leave and create space with the intention of inviting a new relationship into your life!
Practice Being Adored
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. The only reason we ever want anything in life is because of the way we think it will make us feel.
So get clear about how you want your dream relationship to make you feel, and then practice feeling those ways, all the time, starting now.
If you want to feel adored. Practice feeling adored! Adore yourself. Go where you know people will adore you. Put yourself in situations to be adored.
In other words, set yourself up for emotional success!
If you want to feel sexy, do stuff that makes you feel sexy! Buy that lingerie. Go on that diet. Do whatever you gotta do to feel sexy NOW.
If you can conjure up and practice the feelings you want your dream relationship to bring you now, before you actually are in the relationship, you can manifest anything. And fast!
By the way, I’ve created a super duper awesome FREE worksheet called Manifesting Cheat Sheet that will help you do just this. Click here to download it so you can print it out and get manifesting!
Notice What You Love About Everyone
As life has presented you with many potential partners, you’ve become more and more clear about what you like and what you don’t. You now have a pretty good idea of the qualities you like in a partner and the qualities you… well, hate. (Am I right?)
The key to manifesting an amazzzing partner (that has all the good and none of the bad qualities you've encountered over the years) is to put all your focus, and keep your focus, on the good qualities of every partner you’ve ever had.
I know it’s gonna be hard. But it’s the only way.
And this is not just limited to past people you’ve been in relationships with. Every time you interact with a new potential lover or even just go out on one date, notice and admire everything you like about this person, regardless of if they are “the one” or not.
So even though the last person you dated may not have been "the one"? What did you like about them? What did you like about all of your exes? Stay focused on these qualities and the partner of your dreams will encompass them all.
(Pro relationship tip: The main reason why relationships are always so great in the beginning and then eventually fizzle out is because, in the beginning, we are always looking for the best in our partner.
Then, somewhere along the line, we begin criticizing, and judging, and wishing our partners would behave in ways that are more pleasing to us. And so, because we get so focused on the “bad” qualities we literally manifest that experience of them.)
Make A List
This is the fun part peeps! Make a list of all the awesome qualities you want in your partner.
Not only do you want this list to be about them, but since it takes two to tango, make sure to include statements about how you feel in this dream relationship (in the first person, present tense).
He’s so kind.
We have a lot of fun together.
I feel very special.
You get the idea. Write it down as if it’s already happening.
Don’t Put So Much Pressure
For whatever reason, us humans are really stuck on the idea that there is only one soulmate out there for us. And if we don’t find them, we are forever missing out.
But let’s set a few things straight here.
A soulmate is literally just that, a soul mate. Someone you were mates/homies/friends with in the spiritual/nonphysical realm that you decided to reincarnate with this time around.
Soulmates can show up in our lives in many forms. As friends, pets, family members… not just lovers. So really, it’s not necessary to get super hung up on the whole “soulmate” thing.
Luckily, there are literally thousands of potential people that would make you so happy! THOUSANDS! Which means, the odds are in your favor. #forreal
Thinking there is only one person in the whole entire world who you can be happy with is like saying there is only one food that you like and that all the other foods in the whole entire world are disgusting. And if you can’t eat that ONE food every day, for every meal, you might as well just not eat at all.
No, no no! You love food and so many different kinds I might add.
So really, you don’t need to put so much pressure on manifesting “the one” because there are tons of “ones” available to you at any moment in time.
Also, it's a lot easier to manifest a boyfriend or girlfriend than your “one and only true love”, simply because there is less pressure in doing so and therefore there is less resistance.
Instead of getting hung up on manifesting "the one" just focus on manifesting one. Period.
And if that person does just so happen to be one of the thousands of people that you can live a super duper happy life with, you will know, and so will they.
Isn't that a lovely thought to think?
Do the Work (Clean up your vibration)
The bottom line is, if you want an amazing partner, YOU have to be an amazing partner. Because, as the law of attraction would have it, like energy attracts like energy.
So no matter what level you’re on, that’s the type of partner you’re going to attract. You’re always going to attract someone on a similar energetic plane as you, so make sure yours is the best it can be!
Not to say that opposites don’t attract, because they do. But this means people with opposite personalities or interests, never opposite vibrations. So if you want a high vibe partner, you gotta clean up your vibration too.
Love them from afar
Unless you're into dating people far (and I mean lightyears) outside of your age range, chances are, this person that's going to be your new partner is already alive somewhere on this planet.
Isn't that a cool thing to think about?
And, chances are, that as you're thinking about them, they're thinking about you.
Wondering what you're like... imagining how you look... daydreaming about how and when they get to meet you!
So instead of noticing how they aren't by your side (yet), constantly send them love and light from afar. Think about them lovingly, just like you will when you guys are officially together.
Think about how they are in search of you, just like you are in search of them. Pray for them. Wish them a good day. Write them little notes…
Why wait until you guys meet to start the relationship when you could technically start it right now? Which would help it manifest much, much quicker. #justsayin
Follow Your Bliss
And as always, when you're manifesting anything. The easiest and fastest way to turn your thought into a thing is to simply follow your bliss.
When you follow your bliss, you feel amazing, and when you feel amazing you're automatically a vibrational match to all amazing things. That's what makes this tip the ultimate life hack.
Try it for a month and see what happens. I dare you. :)
You got this!
There you have it! These tips will literally help you manifest your dream relationship quicker than you can say “I love you”.
That is if, and only if, you can keep your eye on the prize for long enough that you quit noticing how you’re still single and start noticing how your partner is already on their way to you!
And if you’re super serious about manifesting your dream relationship once and for all, I highly recommend you consider enrolling in Manifesting Masterclass.
Not only will it help you create this relationship in the funnest and easiest way possible, but it will equip you with the tools and the knowledge to manifest whatever you want, whenever you want it, for the rest of your life! #winning
When your dream lover does show up, you better come back to this article and leave a comment! I wanna hear all about your success story and I expect an invite to the wedding. (Just kidding… Sorta.) ;)
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