Being able to deliberately craft and sculpt your own reality is a skill that comes in handy quite frequently in life. You can literally use it to be, do, or have anything your heart desires. And I can tell you from experience that it is freakin' fun!
Today I'm gonna' show you how to use that power and focus to manifest the love of your life! #exciting
Maybe it sounds too good to be true. But I can confidently assure you that it's not. Because this is the exact same technique I used to manifest the love of my life. And if I can do it, you can too.
I’ve also created a free tool for you called “Manifesting Cheat Sheet” that you can download here! It will help you get clear about the type of relationship that you want so you can start aligning with it.
How To Manifest the Love of Your Life
Step 1: Identify the Feeling
The real key to manifesting the love of your life (or anything really) is to focus on the feeling.
Many people learn about the law of attraction and then focus on what they want their desired manifestation to look like, and how it is going to come to them. But this approach never works because it's not focused on the feeling of what the desired manifestation will bring them. And capturing the feeling is everything!
When I talk about feeling I mean this: What feeling will you have when this manifestation shows up in your life? Why do you want it in the first place?
In this case, your answer would be something along the lines of... "Being with the love of my life would make me feel ________. I want a relationship because it will make me feel ________, ________, and ________..."
The reason you want it is because you think it is gonna make you feel some sort of way that you probably don't feel right now.
Maybe you feel lonely so you want a lover to keep you company. Maybe you feel like it's you against the world and you're looking for a sense of partnership. Maybe you feel undesirable and you want to feel wanted and appreciated.
Whatever the reason, you want a relationship (or anything in life) because you think it's gonna make you feel a certain way. And you're probably right that it will encourage those feelings, but the part that people always miss is the fact that you have to capture that feeling in your imagination first, before you can have it in real life.
That's what deliberate creation is all about.
It's like a game. How much of the desired feeling or emotion can you capture and practice in order for it to show up in real life?!
So, how does this apply to manifesting the love of your life? Let me demonstrate with a few examples.
Step 2: Capture the Feeling
Let’s say you want to manifest a boyfriend. If you know a little bit about the law of attraction already you think you better get specific so you begin focusing... “I want him to be 6’3” with a beautiful smile, funny jokes, and lots of money. We will meet on a plane while flying and fall in love at first sight.”
While that’s all fine and dandy, those kinds of thoughts are not gonna' get you your prince. Why? Because you are focusing on what he looks like and how you will meet him. When instead what you should be focusing on is how he will make you feel.
When you focus on the feelings of what you want it comes to you a billion times faster than you bossing the universe around telling it how he has to look and how he's gonna come to you. That’s very limiting for several reasons. (Reasons I would explain if this were the chapter of the book, not a blog post.)
All you really care about anyway is how this new boyfriend is gonna make you feel. That's the whole reason why you want him in the first place.
You want him to be tall so you can feel safe and protected. You want him to be funny so you can feel happy. You want him to have money so you can feel secure and taken care of.
So instead of worrying about what he looks like or when you'll meet him imagine yourself already in the relationship. What does this perfect relationship feel like?
“He makes me feel safe and protected (tall). Just looking at him turns me on (beautiful smile). I feel happy when I’m with him (funny jokes). We never have to worry about money (lots of money)….”
See how that captures all the qualities you were looking for and turned them into feelings? Focusing on and imagining the feeling of the relationship gives the universe a little more creative freedom to give you a man that will fit that description perfectly for you. Don't limit yourself to one “type” or “look” when what you are really after is a feeling.
Let's say you want to manifest a girlfriend. One who is really fit, brunette, maternal, and sporty. Here's how your turn those traits into feelings.
You want her to be fit because you are attracted to health and vitality. You like brunettes because you find them sexy. You want her to be maternal because you would like a family. And you would love someone sporty who you can do lots of fun activities with.
"She radiates health and vitality (fit). I love looking at and playing with her hair, It's so sexy to me (brunette). She makes me feel like starting a family together (maternal). We love spending quality time in the outdoors (sporty)."
(Pssst! Use my free “Manifesting Cheat Sheet” to help you with this!)
Step 3: Practice the Feeling
The last step is to practice the feeling until it becomes your new reality. This is how you become a vibrational match to having the relationship of your dreams.
There are two parts to practicing the feelings you are aiming for in this new lover.
1. Part one is to imagine the feelings as often as you can. This is the deliberate creation/manifesting part.
2. Part two is to incorporate those feelings into your everyday life. This is the becoming a vibrational match to what you want part.
My personal favorite way to really capture and imagine the feeling of being in the perfect relationship is to journal about it. There's something so powerful about writing by hand. It helps you really slow down and focus easily.
Consider today your lucky day because I've already created a free Manifesting Cheat Sheet that you can print out to execute the steps of this article!
Ready to manifest the love of your life?
Every night before you go to sleep, write for about 10-15 minutes. Pretend that your wish is already fulfilled and that you are currently in this perfect relationship with the love of your life. Just like the examples in part 2, you're gonna capture all feelings of your new relationship.
Pro Tip: Write everything in the present tense as if it is currently happening.
Here's an excerpt from the journal that I used to manifest my boyfriend to give you some inspiration. (And I should say that every single one of these lines describes our relationship exactly how it is today. This shit works people. I promise.)
"He makes me feel loved, supported and taken care of.
We have lots of fun together doing artsy stuff like going to museums and shows.
He takes me to eat Thai food (my favorite) all the time.
We play wrestle for fun.
I really feel like myself when I am around him.
He is extremely empathetic and understanding.
He just "gets" me.
My cheeks hurt from laughing so much when we spend time together."
Starting to get the hang of it? The more vivid you can imagine it, the better.
Next you have to basically (for lack of a better description) date yourself. You have to become the type of person that you want to attract.
All those things that you wrote down in your journal or cheat sheet, you have to start incorporating into your daily life.
For me, I found ways to make myself feel more loved by taking the time to work on my self love. I found the places in my life where I already felt supported and taken care of. I started taking myself out to artsy shows and museums. I ate a lot of Thai food. I practiced staying true to myself. Well, I sure didn't wrestle myself, but I did imagine wrestling him from time to time. I took the time to practice more self compassion and understand myself. I found lots of ways to laugh more.
In order to attract the love of your life you first have to become it. As soon as you get good at that, they will show up.
Like my man Preston Smiles always says, "Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes."
And there you have it! A step by step guide to manifesting the love of your life.