My lovely friend, Amira, reminded me of a great technique for being able to trust and surrender to life when she told me the story of how she lost her beloved wedding ring (gasp).
Amira's Life Lessons
Amira is newly engaged and recently received a beautiful (with a capital "B") ring from her fiance. It gleams and sparkles as resemblance of their love for each other, a true token of romance.
One day she gets caught up in a friendly conversation at the gym (where she works) while she is washing her hands in the ladies room.
Meanwhile, her ring is on the counter...
After a friendly exchange she continues her shift as usual, back at the front desk, only to realize she forgot her ring in the bathroom! So (as a panic attack arises) she runs back to the bathroom counter only to find it empty, ringless.
Naturally, her first thought is that some lucky person has probably stolen it. Needless to say, Amira is freaking out (and feeling guilty/stupid/horrible/sad/angry).
A few moments pass by and, by some miracle, a gym member approaches her with a grin, her ring, and two life lessons.
"I have your ring you left in the bathroom. I just wanted you to squirm for a little."
Life lesson number one, NEVER remove your wedding ring.
Life lesson number two, the Universe ALWAYS has your back.
How to trust
The Universe, God, Ala, Karma, Source Energy, Quantum Physics, whatever you like to call It, always (and I mean always) has your back. There's so much comfort in that statement I'm gonna' repeat it again.
The Universe always has your back.
When Amira lost her ring she automatically assumed the worst and started to panic. That's usually our natural tendency in stressful moments. But what if we knew that it would be ok in the end?
Another (heavier) example is when I used to have depression. I thought that was going to be the end of me (literally). But, as the Universe would have it, it only allowed me the space to overcome an obstacle and become an inspiration to others. My depression is what pushed me to become a teacher of life. (You can read my story here.)
Of course, when I was depressed I felt like it was the end of the world. But looking back I can recognize that it was a true blessing. And obviously (even though it did not feel like it at the time) the Universe had my back. Just like it had Amira's, and it has yours.
All the time, every time.
In the moment, we always feel like it's the end of the world and it's easy to lose sight of the truth. The truth being it will always work out.
When Amira was telling me this story she said how she's going to consciously remember it forever, so that next time something stresses her out she will know that somehow, someway, it will work itself out. What a genius!
We would all be better off to observe all the times that life works out and keep them in mind for when it feels like it won't, don't you think?
Humans crave security and reassurance. We love facts. We are constantly looking back at history to try and predict the future. By creating the supporting evidence to back the idea that everything always works out, we are more easily able to cultivate the knowledge and trust that it actually will.
Normally, I would discourage looking backwards because, as Edna Mode from The Incredibles so eloquently states, "It distracts from da' now." But, in this case, looking back at all the times that life did indeed go on can bring so much inner peace.
Plus (an added bonus) when you are able to trust the Universe you are in a state of nonresistance. And when you live from a place of nonresistance, life really starts happening for you, rather than to you.
So the lesson is this: Remember that time when you thought you were gonna' die, but then you didn't? Exactly.